the focus is on a single objective.
and there it should remain.
to keep the dialog simple, straightforward, honest.
posed with a question, "is this good","how do we feel about it", etc.
i don't want to answer. it's not relevant in this context. the contradiction in behavior will not be lost on me. it's predictable. and painful to watch.
a friend says, "like you too much to have this kind of thing get in the way"
i remind myself of the more important things.
i remind myself that the assignment of a whole to a small part is incorrect, unfair, an injustice of sorts.
"there is no reigning you in z...."
no.
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She would say, "It is your responsibility to understand others Suzy--it will only help you to be exactly as you are."
The theme of "listening" ever present.
"Never assume you are smarter than anyone. Never."
Listen.
"Everyone just wants to be heard."
Listen.
"Wisdom is in listening. In the silence of your voice."
Listen.
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Listening to chaos. To mayhem. To short-sightedness. To "good enough". And all of these that I have listened to...not one...not for a moment have wondered...have internalized...have made it their primary to listen.
And when we are forced to hear the pain of those who live the consequences of our making. When that full exposure comes. What will the answer be for the level of indifference shown?
I wonder what then. When that stifling silence and realization comes. With each little thing...the haunting and reliving, "We should have", "We could have".
...
There is no positive value derived from what is not.
Full disclosure and transparency allow for preparation, for education, for informing, for allowing others to feel secure. They want to be heard--let us at least show that we hear them, we acknowledge them, we have answers and not just confusion they are stuck to figure their way through.